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Hi, yesterday I went to my third couples therapy session with my boyfriend and the truth is that I didn't see what happened coming... that's why I'd love to hear your opinions.
I'm a gainer but my boyfriend isn't part of the community, we're going to therapy to see how we can combine it.
I think this therapist didn't quite understand my sexuality, she made some comments that made me feel small and unsupported. Considering that she's one of the first people I've opened up to about this topic, a topic that for me is still complicated and taboo.
The thing is that we were coming to the end of the session and she told me something that paralyzed me. She told me that if I wanted to continue with the sessions I would have to give her regular health checks and medical reviews. She left me speechless. At first I didn't know what to say, then she asked me how I felt and I told her I was angry and then I started to cry and I couldn't stop, in fact I practically couldn't even speak. In the end we decided to end with the session.
I still don't know if his proposal was objectively correct, what I do know is that I felt ridiculed, tiny and like a monster.
I thank my partner for being on my side and holding my hand at all times.

I need to hear your opinion, to give me your versions. How would you have felt? Do you think it's fair? Is physical health above mental health?

Thank you very much for reading me.

I'm not up to date on Spanish health laws, but I find this questionably legal. She isn't qualified to interpret that information meaningfully if she is just a therapist.

At the very least, I'd file a complaint and find someone else.

I don't see the connection between your weight and your couples therapy

Is your weight responsible for conflict in your relationship, which could potentially have led you and your partner to undergo this therapy?

But that doesn't excuse your therapist's reaction.

If I had been in your place I would have “thanked” him and just changed therapists.

I'm telling ya - file a complaint. There are worlds of difference between a therapist not being a good fit and a therapist severely overstepping.

Yes too.

This sounds like the therapist didn’t understand you and was working off their own bias. I would complain and find a more open minded therapist.

I agree with the others. What a terrible approach. That's unacceptable and NONE of their business. I would report them and find someone new. I'm so sorry you went through that.